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1+ 27- 2
Deciphering if they're playing hard to get or if they're just uninterestedThey look similar, but are complete opposites. People play hard to get, but it's almost impossible to tell if they're playing hard to get or if they're flat out uninterested. This is a game that’s usually played solo, and involves a great deal of driving yourself crazy trying to carefully analyze every last bit of interaction.
2+ 28- 5
The "purposefully taking longer to text back to mask interest" gameYes, sometimes when daters do nothing, they’re doing something. Texting is done so strategically these days and people aren’t above intentionally waiting to see if you’ll text first, or purposefully taking longer to respond to mask interest. It’s all silly, but “I’m gonna wait for her/him to text me first” is a phrase people frequently think and speak.
3+ 21- 3
Showing interest without being creepyThe key to this game is first learning if the other person is interested, because that’s really the only difference between your actions being embraced and your actions being screencapped and shamed. Whether sliding into someone’s DMs or mentioning that you remember a detail about them, you must tread lightly if you aren’t fairly certain how they feel about you.
4+ 14- 3
Searching for a label through the foggy vaguenessMany daters try to avoid the “What are we?” conversation, which can often lead to confusion on precisely what the relationship is. People don’t know what the level of commitment is, and after all these years, people still don’t know what “we’re talking” truly means. The uncertainty makes for a heck of a time searching for something definitive.
5+ 13- 5
Should I be concerned or am I being paranoid?Because of vague anti-labels like “talking” instead of being "in a relationship," it becomes tricky to figure out what’s acceptable and what’s not – especially when you’re involved with a person who communicates in a particular way with other people that makes you uncertain of and uncomfortable with the situation. Some people do this because they enjoy being flirtatious with the masses and they might say it’s harmless, but you’ll be left trying to figure out if you should legitimately be worried, or if you’re just being jealous. The lack of a definitive label might make you feel as if you’re not in a position to inquire, which only builds on the discomfort and inspires your imagination to cook up unpleasant thoughts.
6+ 14- 6
Veiled social media communicationPosting song lyrics or quotes indirectly meant for someone on Facebook or Instagram is so much more difficult than speaking to them like a mature person, but people still do it. Once someone has indirectly communicated with you, it’s easy to respond the same way - then suddenly, you find yourself wondering if her friend would ask her if she likes you (but then you remember you're not in first grade anymore).
7+ 9- 3
Purposely losing the emotional raceWhen it comes to two people putting themselves out there, the ideal way that this happens is simultaneously, with both people naturally taking the plunge together. Unfortunately some people who’ve been wronged in the past or have whatever reasons for proceeding with caution will keep their walls up and leave it wholly on the other individual to open up and be responsible for closeness.
8+ 9- 6
Does “Have fun with that” actually mean have fun, or are they mad at me right now?When you’re doing something separate from the person you’re dating like, say, a night out with friends, it’s not unusual for them to say “have fun.” However, as most of us know, what someone says and what they mean are sometimes two entirely different things. Perhaps they do actually hope that you enjoy the duration of your time doing whatever you’re doing, but don’t be surprised if they actually mean “I’m so angry at you and if you actually go I’m going to be cold and rude until you figure out that I don’t want you to have any of the fun.”